Once the child of an alcoholic becomes the adult child of an alcoholic, the trauma of the past is not eradicated. There’s no magic trick performed when the child moves out of the house. Their geographic location may change, their age may change, but the influence on the child does not.
Seeking acceptance, predictability, and truth, are common drives for the child of an alcoholic. Parenting skills that are strict and relentless make a child sensitive to any kind of criticism. Alcoholic parenting also inspires denial in the child. Assuming responsibility for the inexplicable, a child will deny any lack of normalcy. In the future, this can contribute to false senses of reality.
Signs of an Adult Child with an Alcoholic Parent
- Doesn’t adapt well to change
- Difficulty making transitions
- Feels safe in routines
- Uncomfortable with predictability
- Challenged with issues of trust
- Unable to open up in emotional or sexual intimacy
- Feeling emotionally disconnected with others
- Feelings of unworthiness
- Fear of being judged
- Lacking in self-forgiveness, self-kindness, and self-compassion
- Heightened Sensitivity
- Assumed Responsibility